Good evening, and Happy Tasty Tuesday!
On Tuesday’s Belle’s Bleues does its best to keep you fed mentally and physically.
To help serve your weekly dose of Emotional Intelligence, I called in some reinforcements.
Emotional Intelligence is very important to have. It allows us to respond in a sound manner in regards to all situations and circumstances. Seriously, it never matters what you may be going through. If your emotional intelligence is high, or if you’re even working on it, you can get through anything.
Just the other day I was laying down; tired from my body’s womanly functions, and my chest hurt so bad. Every night my cat sleeps with me. When she climbed on top of me to wiggle into her spot under the covers, I wanted to swat her off of me so bad. In the past I probably would have, but here’s the thing: she’s a cat. She had no idea my body hurt. All she wanted to do was lay with me.
So I took a deep breath, kindly picked her up, and just placed her beside me. Ever heard of projecting anger? That’s simply the result of zero Emotional Intelligence combined with terrible communication skills. Swatting my poor cat away would’ve meant I was mad at her as if she were hurting me on purpose. I would have caught her off guard, and been badly scratched (leading to more anger and putting me in a bad mood before bed). I’m thankful I chose to take the emotionally intelligent route.
In case you’re completely confused by what I just said; basically, good Emotional Intelligence allows us to recognize how we feel, why we feel that way, and helps us respond accordingly when dealing with situations that make us emotional. Why didn’t I just say that in the first place? Because you’re here to learn something, that’s why.
Now here’s where my reinforcements come in. See, when you’re emotionally intelligent you have to be quick on your “thinking feet.” There are some things you do, and some things you just don’t. Well, can’t rather; because if you did, you wouldn’t be emotionally intelligent would you? Justin Gammill wrote a very cool article concerning the matter. After reading it you tend to feel as though any other response to a situation makes you look like a barbaric animal.
Emotional Intelligence is very hard to practice when you’re not used to practicing it. It’s evident a lot of people are lacking this because it shows up in their self esteem. They feel bad about themselves for whatever reason, and keep their heads down as they watch their feet take turns hitting the ground. Their smiles tend to be invisible, and they just give off a vibe that says, “can you hug me? I can’t seem to do it myself.”
René Brooks wrote a beautiful piece on her blog, “Black Girl, Lost Keys” about self love. It resonated with me because, when my Emotional Intelligence is low it causes me to lose sight myself. If “I Can’t Love Myself and Hate My Body” doesn’t make you think even a little bit, you may need a lobotomy. Just saying.